26 Mar Every Day I Love You More – 29 Life Tips for My Teenage Daughter
All across the UK today, there will be families celebrating Mother’s Day. For me, I am heading to the beach for a glorious lunch in our favourite beach bistro followed by a sunny afternoon walk on the prom, with my 80 year old mum and my daughter.
I am a mum to a feisty, beautiful, full-on, glorious and truly adorable 14 year old daughter. I love that she has always been, even as a tiny child, measured and considered but with a wicked streak of fun. She remains in her teenage years very centered and balanced, so incredibly talented, determined, independent, slowly increasingly sure of her own abilities – and most importantly so very happy. And every day I love her more.
I hope I have taught her well how to weather the wonderful bendy, up and down journey that is life; and feel today, on this Mother’s Day, a day that celebrates me being so very blessed to be her mum, I thought I’d share just a few of the things I hope I have taught, and continue to teach in her as she moves forward so very positively with life.
- How to give a firm handshake.
- To look people in the eye when you are talking to them.
- People will judge you by what you say and “I was like, um, totally!” does not qualify as a sentence.
- To never wear clothes with something written across your butt! People will judge you by what you wear. Cultivate your own style but show self-respect.
- How to change a tyre – or at least how to call the breakdown company and know what to say!
- How to use a bus, a train and a taxi – and safely.
- That most magazines are completely photo-shopped. And both articles and advertising have a hidden agenda. Every time.
- Eat the cup cake, skip the exercise sometimes. Its all about balance and confidence is so much more attractive than a thigh gap and a size 0.
- Laughter can diffuse many challenging situations and more so when you can laugh at yourself.
- Dream BIG but set realistic goals; remember you can accomplish more than you think
- Basic sewing skills – buttons, zips and hems.
- How to type.
- Don’t be afraid to use your voice – sometimes it’s the most powerful thing you have.
- Basic self defence – how to get out of a situation and run fast. Use that powerful voice. And that no means no, no matter what.
- But remember, silence is an answer too.
- Why you write proper thank you notes – and not because its expected of you.
- How to manage money – bank accounts, investments and a basic stock market understanding.
- A man will never treat a woman better than he treats his mum. Pay attention and run from the ones who aren’t respectful and kind. This also applies to girl-friends and their mums!
- How to apologise well and how to ask for help when needed. Anger is more harmful to the person who continue to carry it, than to whom its directed at.
- How to handle herself online – privacy settings, remember anything shared can go viral and that people online aren’t always who they say they are.
- Listen well – it’s a skill not everyone has.
- But block out the voices. Not every opinion needs hearing. Learn those that you allow to shape your thoughts and let go of those that don’t matter.
- Just because its never been done doesn’t mean it cant be.
- Know your personal limits. Your strengths & weaknesses and what you are willing to sacrifice and for what. Once you know this you can use it to your advantage.
- Read often and diversely.
- To always look up – you never know what you will miss if you’re staring at your phone or the ground in front of you.
- To appreciate the little things – the sunrises and sunsets, the waves, the clouds, the trees, the simplicity of life, good food and excellent friends.
- Trust your instincts. If it feels wrong it probably is. Listen to your inner voice, your solid guide and don’t try to silence it because its always right.
- And remember Mother’s Day!
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